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The Almighty Calendar

Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019

The almighty calendar calls today. I am more than halfway through 2019, and I already find myself looking to 2020 with a desire to order my days, set goals, and make a plan to move productively toward the growth of my life. I find that mid-year is just as good a time to face the calendar as January is. 

As a midwife and homeschool mom, it has become critical that I plan our year 12 months at a time. Then, I can reevaluate every six months. It’s pretty simple, but not always easy.

If I don’t do this, my family has no way of knowing if and when I will be off-call. To live on-call 24/7 is stressful enough. To make it 365 days a year is entirely too much. It is unfair to ask my husband and kids to live on-call along with me. They are entitled to a wife and mother who prioritizes their needs. I have learned the hard way what it looks like when I allow my family to take a backseat year round.  

It looks like taking June and July off completely could be my best option for the next several years. With four school age kids, it makes more sense to take time off when we are taking time off of school already. Our family can be free to really enjoy summer vacation together in whatever way we would like. 

That freedom sounds glorious to me right now, in these final years with the kids at home. My youngest turns 12 this year, and I really want to have as many adventures as our time and budget allow in the next six years.

Family comes first, and even my work calendar must reflect that. Otherwise, I cannot be the wife, mother, or midwife I strive to be. 

So, here’s to the almighty calendar! Dictator of days, goals, and seasons! May it reflect my values truthfully and clearly throughout the year.

And if you are due any time after early September 2019, I still have several spots open for homebirth clients! Let me know when you would like to meet.

 

 

 

 

 

PS: One of my favorite planning tools is my bullet journal. It has saved me a lot of headaches!

With Woman

Thursday, October 19th, 2017

It is anticipation, flutters and quickening.
Life and growth and unparalleled beauty.
It is squeals and coos, wriggles and dimples.
Hanging scales with tiny feet peeking through.

It is knowledge and wisdom, training and practice.
Books and research, instinct and reason.
It is squatting and reaching, twisting and folding,
meeting a mother and her baby right here.

It is a never-off cell phone, interruptions at dinner.
Put off vacations, and birthdays on hold.
It is seizing the moment, because you’re not at a birth,
keeping scrubs in the car and bags packed and ready.

It is saying the hard things, in compassion and grace.
Holding hands and “I’m sorry,” grieving and loss.
It is sitting and waiting, listening and presence.
Letting grief take its course in her heart slowly breaking.

It is business and money, budgets and forms.
Paperwork piles, contracts, and records.
It is hiding the headaches and ignoring the numbers,
Trusting provision will come someday soon.

It is building a village, stone by stone every day.
Community, relationship, and opening doors.
It is connecting her with new like-minded others,
Helping her realize she is in no way alone.

It is hands and heart in equal measure.
Richness and fullness and life as reward.
It is working in joy, frustration, and love.
Being with woman is far more than a job.

What does midwifery care mean to you?