Posts Tagged ‘life’

The Almighty Calendar

Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019

The almighty calendar calls today. I am more than halfway through 2019, and I already find myself looking to 2020 with a desire to order my days, set goals, and make a plan to move productively toward the growth of my life. I find that mid-year is just as good a time to face the calendar as January is. 

As a midwife and homeschool mom, it has become critical that I plan our year 12 months at a time. Then, I can reevaluate every six months. It’s pretty simple, but not always easy.

If I don’t do this, my family has no way of knowing if and when I will be off-call. To live on-call 24/7 is stressful enough. To make it 365 days a year is entirely too much. It is unfair to ask my husband and kids to live on-call along with me. They are entitled to a wife and mother who prioritizes their needs. I have learned the hard way what it looks like when I allow my family to take a backseat year round.  

It looks like taking June and July off completely could be my best option for the next several years. With four school age kids, it makes more sense to take time off when we are taking time off of school already. Our family can be free to really enjoy summer vacation together in whatever way we would like. 

That freedom sounds glorious to me right now, in these final years with the kids at home. My youngest turns 12 this year, and I really want to have as many adventures as our time and budget allow in the next six years.

Family comes first, and even my work calendar must reflect that. Otherwise, I cannot be the wife, mother, or midwife I strive to be. 

So, here’s to the almighty calendar! Dictator of days, goals, and seasons! May it reflect my values truthfully and clearly throughout the year.

And if you are due any time after early September 2019, I still have several spots open for homebirth clients! Let me know when you would like to meet.

 

 

 

 

 

PS: One of my favorite planning tools is my bullet journal. It has saved me a lot of headaches!

This Is Hard.

Friday, May 31st, 2013

I can no longer describe myself as a stay-at-home-mom. Of course, I am still home the majority of the time, but I am definitely working more now.

Slowly, my business is building and increasing. I have at least one client a month through July, and a few births a month with Desirre as her assistant. Also, I am still teaching as the only educator at Preparing for Birth. That work will have some relief soon, as one of our other doulas is pursuing her childbirth education certification too. She’s student teaching under me right now.

Needless to say, I’m officially a Really Busy Mom. Adding work hours has been tough. Tougher than we thought it would be as a family, but we’re working out the logistics pretty well. I am so grateful that my husband is not just grudgingly supportive, but encouragingly so. He has really stepped up to help on the days I have to go in to work, or get called to a birth.

In addition, with my mom living here for now, we have had some welcome relief. She cannot help but pitch in and do things that need doing around here. She is a beautiful gift. She would make a great postpartum doula.

I know that I am called to this work. When doubts creep in, someone always comes along to remind me of the truth of my calling in birth work. They usually don’t know that’s what they’re doing, but it is.

God is faithful, and is holding me up in this journey.

This is hard, but I am glad I am here.

What has been worth it in your life, in spite of difficulty? Why?

Grace & Peace,
Tiffany