There is such a special sweetness in being able to participate in creation.

~Pamela S. Nadav

Passenger or Driver: The Importance of Informed Consent.

June 15, 2015

Yes, it almost sounds like a Dr. Seuss-ism – “Would you rather be a passenger or a driver?” Most of us would rather be the driver, I would venture. In every other aspect of our lives, we exercise informed consent. We want to be involved, in control, and overseeing every detail. Take for example the…

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Why take childbirth classes anyway?

June 8, 2015

Why take childbirth classes anyway? You and baby are made for this process, so what is the big deal?  You go into labor, have many contractions, eventually become fully dilated and push out a baby. Bam. It’s nature! Right? Not quite, I’m afraid. In a perfect world, women would grow up around pregnancy, labor, birth…

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A Doula For The Dying, Part 2: 5 More things I learned while doulaing my dying father.

May 25, 2015

When I set out to be by my father’s side in 2012, I had no idea what to expect. My sister and I both lived in Colorado Springs, so naturally we caravaned to Oregon together. We talked about it a lot. What would we have to do? How would we help our mom? This was…

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Dilation Isn’t Everything: The many jobs of your cervix.

May 18, 2015

A mother waits patiently on the small triage bed while the nurse concentrates on what her fingers are telling her about the progress of this labor. After a minute, she pulls her fingers out, and chirps brightly, “You are 5 centimeters dilated!” She flips her gloves into the trash can and turns to the computer…

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A Doula For The Dying: 5 Things I Learned at My Father’s Deathbed

May 18, 2015

Almost three years ago, I packed up my four children and drove to Oregon to help care for my father. His melanoma had metastasized to his spinal fluid, and everything that could be thrown at it to kill it, had been. There was nothing left, but to wait. Probably only weeks were left. His decline…

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In Honor of International Doula Month

May 11, 2015

 Not only were we able to celebrate World Doula Week recently, I found out that there is an entire month to celebrate doulas! Now, I could re-state all the facts about professional labor support. I could share famous doula quotes. I could toot my own horn, as it were. However, I don’t want to do…

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Breath & Wings: A Mother’s Day Post

May 10, 2015

Her new wings are still unfurling, tender and delicate. A flutter here, another in a moment. Quiet! There she goes. Uncertain, her feet have left the ground anyway. “Now is as good a time as any!” Her wings straighten and thrust her into open air. Not yet soaring, she hops and jumps and keeps testing…

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Doulas and Home Birth

May 4, 2015

Is there benefit to hiring a doula for a home birth? I say YES absolutely. An oldie but a goodie, from Desirre, in honor of International Doula Month. As a seasoned doula who has attended home births as labor support and now an  intern midwife who clinically supports the mother, I believe that many women…

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Grace Under Pregnancy: Responding to Negativity

April 27, 2015

We’ve all seen those blog posts listing all the hilarious, snarky retorts we can have at our disposal when well-intentioned people make comments about our pregnancy, parenting, or birth choices. There is definitely a place for a well-placed one-liner, but not everyone will see the joke. Those remarks are most often only appreciated in theory,…

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Do’s and Don’ts in Labor & Delivery (a.k.a. Getting What You Want, Kindly)

April 20, 2015

Birth plans. Epidurals. Natural Childbirth. Doulas. Induction. Cesareans. And more… The list of decisions about birth goes on and on… More women are becoming dissatisfied with the status quo in American maternity care, and are asking for something outside the norm for the hospital where they plan give birth. Naturally, this might make for some…

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